ok, so I promised a blog on gift giving advice as a follow up to my last blog.  This is just something I noticed men tend to get wrong- at least in my experience.  So, I started thinking about it, and I think I found a flaw in the thinking.  See, men tend to give us things we don’t have- which, you are probably thinking, why is that such a bad thing.  Well, you see, most women I know are successful enough to at least get most of the things we really, really want (unless its just something way out of our price range, but you will see where I am getting at).

See, the flaw in this is that, let’s say, you notice we never where a watch.  So you think, ok, she doesn’t have a watch, so you get us one.  Then we thank you, but then you get upset that we never wear it.  What you don’t realize is that a girl that doesn’t wear any watch at any time, most likely, just doesn’t like to wear watches. . .

Now, a correction to this theory is actually to notice what we have a lot of, and then get us a nice one!  See, if you notice she has a ton of purses- then she obviously LOVES purses, and a really nice one she doesn’t have would probably make her soooooo excited, plus it proves that you really know her. . .

Now, this rule can be broken, if you listen to the hints.  Now the hints aren’t really hints, because we actually feel like we are hitting you over the head with them.  Like, every time I watch football, and I give a little sigh and say, man, I really need a Witten jersey.  That means, get me a Witten jersey.  Or, when we pause at a window (normally more than once) and give a little sigh and longing look at the item in the window.  We never do this subtly. . . so right now, if you are clueless, you are really just guilty of not paying attention!  (This goes for your mother, sister, grandmother, any other female you have walked through a store with around a holiday).

And if all else fails- go to Tiffany’s.  We love the little blue box.  Even that girl that says she just doesn’t get it- her heart will skip a little beat when presented with a little blue box.  And believe it or not, they have things in all sorts of prices ranges from the reasonable to the extravagant, but it’s really all about that box.  (But don’t try to fake it because we can recognize the mark, and even if she can’t someone will, then you will be in super bad trouble when she is showing it off and some bitch lets on that its not a real Tiffanys.)

Oh- BUT, if you are not proposing, but you are in that gray area of time in the relationship, get her a necklace or something in a larger box, not anything that would resemble a ring box, or else your just screwed, and we all deserve a merry christmas!

Next up an update on my two dates last weekend and then I am trying snowboarding for the first time Friday.  hahahahahahaha! Or, as I like to call it snow falling.   I am already cracking myself up on that one.  So we will see how my typing fingers and writs feel Saturday. 

Single and snow falling soon in Sin City.

Time for a good rant- On Men and Women. . . tee hee!

Guys there is something you need to realize.  Women over think everything.  We analyze and assume and come to conclusions – sometimes right and sometimes wrong.  (This is especially true and humorous at the beginning of a new relationship.)  You will never get it.  It’s futile to try. . .  Case in point. . .

Boy tells girl- “listen to this song- it’s a good jam”.  Girl says okay.  Then she goes and buys the song, listens to it over and over and reads the lyrics.  The lyrics are all about a boy that does not love a girl.  Girl thinks, “why would he send this?  He must be trying to tell me something.”  Now there are a few different types of personalities at play here.  There is the non-confrontational girl.  She simply shuts down.  They may dance around and around the subject, but communication has broken down, and the boy is wondering, what the hell happened here?  There is also the manipulative and passive aggressive type that then questions the boy using strangely coded and seemingly benign questions for which the boy knows something is at play but isn’t quite sure what, and the boy thinks, “man she’s gotten weird.  What the hell happened here?”  Then there is the confrontational girl.  This conversation goes something like- girl, “are you trying to tell me something?”  Boy says, “what are you talking about.”  Let’s all face it, the song was mentioned in passing a week before and he has no clue what the hell the girl is talking about.  Girl says, “the song, it’s all about how this guy doesn’t love this girl.”  Boy says, “it does? it’s a good jam, did you hear the drum rift in the middle?  Never listened to the lyrics.”  Girl says, “oh.”  Boy thinks to himself, “that was a weird conversation, wonder what the hell happened here?”

Here is the other thing- this one is especially relevant since Christmas is coming up.  No matter what- yes, she expects a gift.  This goes for birthdays, anniversary’s, Christmas, and even fake holidays invented by the greeting card industry.  Even if your broke.  Deep down the fact that your broke and she “understands” doesn’t really matter either.  And yes, it is the thought that counts, but its the thought that goes into the amount of money you spent on the gift in relation to your financial situation as well (just being honest and laying it out there.”  In other words, no matter what she says or how she acts, break down and get her something nice if the girl is the one you want.  Seriously.  Harsh, but true.   And don’t think for a moment that the gift won’t be analyzed either.  Even if you’ve been married awhile.  It goes into this mental storage unit in the head and she will always remember the year she got socks.

And here is perhaps the biggest lesson of all.  Yes, we analyze and over think and drive ourselves crazy which in turn drives you crazy, because yes, you never know what we are thinking or how we came to some insane conclusion on some statement you made a month ago that you don’t even remember- but here is the kicker- women, I hope you are paying attention- see, most of the time, when we come to our conclusions after careful analyzing of what we believe to be the situation, we (women) are WRONG.  (Put this down in history folks, I’m admitting to being wrong.)

And knowing that we are wrong, sometimes, sometimes, when you pull the passive agressive bullshit on us, get upset and we stand there looking at you like a deer caught in the headlights, and we say, “what are you upset about?” and you (the men) shut down and look at us like, “she always knows everything, how can she not know what I’m upset about” guess what guys- we have no freakin’ clue.  Yup, that’s right.  It’s just like the time that we threw the dinner plate at you a month after we got socks for Christmas.  And you thought to yourself, “what the hell happened here?”

Since Christmas is coming up, in the spirit of the season, I think my next blog will be gift advice. . .

~Single and in the spirit in sin city

So the nice, local guy- I bumped into him.  He kind of cornered me and asked me what was up and he wanted to see me, etc. etc.  So I explained that things were kind of crazy for me right now, which they are, and that I had a guest coming in this weekend, that there was a romantic underlying reason for the visit.  So I am suppose to call him after the visit and let him know where things stand. . . which I kind of think is just odd. . . oh, he also shook my han after the conversation.  Like we were sealing a business deal or something.  Am I the only one that finds this odd?

So of course, since I have something with potential, I mean it’s nothing really, just for the first time in a long time something with some potential, my ex, who has this magical ability, and who is also DATING someone that lives in his freakin’ country, tells me he is thinking about coming here in January.  But see, the thing is, once I show any interest or completely self-sabatoge whatever has potential here, in the United States, he will suddenly get busy, or cancel, or get serious with this other girl, or his dad will get sick, or his grandmother. . . I think I just need to focus on what is here, whether it’s just a potential or whatever, because you just can’t go back, you know?  Good, let’s shake on it!  LOL!

~Still single, wish me luck on the weekend, busy in sin city!

So I think I probably have another post with this title.  I think it’s been awhile since I posted!  I dated a little here and there.  Mainly out of towners- haha!  Not sure if we can call that dating, but. . .fun to say the least.  (My friend T says I am avoiding commitment, I say I am enjoying my 30’s).

So, there was a guy with potential, but he lives in another city (and state, let’s face it, it’s not like Reno is a plethora of single guy hotness, nor is Laughlin!).  We see each other when he comes into town.  It kind of worries me though, because what if he has girls like that in every city???  YIKES!  He’s really cool and nice and smart though, and we always have fun, so, in the spirit of singleness, why not?  right?

Then I met a guy (actually while I was on a trip in another city!), that was a blast!  He is younger, but super smart and way fun.  I never really thought we’d see each other again, but some long distance friendship- cool.

Then, I actually got asked out by a decent guy here.  Recently imported for work, so fresh off the train and not jaded or swarmed by attractive hostesses that are looking for the next. . . well, we’ll just say free meal.  haha

Now, this wasn’t all at once, but 3 potentials over the last 3 or so months is way better than my pickings usually are, even if there are issues with each of them, it’s better than sitting at home on a Friday night with a bucket of bonbons.

Here is the story to explain the title of the blog:  Get a call from guy#2- hey, I am coming into town.  I just had to see you!  Yea!  I think to myself!  Wow!  I mean after my last ex-long distance boyfriend, this was a total shocker and a welcome suprise!

Then I get a call from guy#1.  Guess what!  I rearranged a meeting and I will be in town and I want to take you out!  Let’s paint the town.  Ok, I think to myself.  I think we can all see where this is going.

So guy#3 had to get the “things are complicated speech.”  I mean, even I can’t be that heartless!  This is too much!

Luckily, #1 flies out the morning #2 flies in- but even this has left me feeling a little guilty.  Am I over thinking this?  I think B said it best, “just remember guys pull shit like this all the time and they never even think twice about it.”  Maybe. . . but thats part of the reason I enjoy being a woman- you know the feeling stuff.

So, I haven’t been blogging because I haven’t had much to say.  Expect a flurry of activity next week, if this doesn’t blow up in my face!

BTW- The other girls in the group think this is awesome.  I always thought I’d earn honors for, oh, I don’t know, doing something positive for charity, getting promoted, discovering something cool. . . something other than a man juggle.  Hahahah!  Sorry, that sounded funny even to me. 

So be sure to check back dear readers. . . or I should say reader, since I broke the golden rule of blogging in not blogging, but it seems some excitement may be coming my way!

~Suddenly not so bored, but def. still single in sin city. . .

I have never thought 30 was old. I have never thought 31 was old. I have never thought 32 was old. . . until now. It seems every guy I meet is YOUNG! We are talking 21, 22, 24, 26. Where are all the guys my age? I’m looking in varied places, but obviously the wrong places. Are they any good men in Vegas over 30?

So I even made an exception with a 25 year old, only to find out he was actually 23- I guess I have to start checking ID’s or something! Then I actually got the pre-emptive dump- you know, the – I just got out of a serious relationship, yada, yada, I hope I didn’t give you the wrong idea. You know what though, I am old, because I actually started laughing, then had to look the poor poodle in the eyes as he realized he was so far off base. I was making a “fun” exception at 25. . . I mean 23! What are we going to talk about- how much fun it was babysitting his friends?

So a friend of mine came to town this past weekend..him and his fellas….he asked if I would hang out with him on Saturday…I said sure. Last time I saw him was like 4 yrs ago..we have been “FRIENDS” for over 10 yrs use to work together in my past life when I was married. We never dated just were friends never “hooked up” just friends..but not with his lack of trying…is it possible for men and woman to be just friends? I really don’t know anymore, I have some male friends that are just that friends…not saying we don’t have a past some we may have a past but realized we were not a match or our soul mates and decided we were better off friends..no back pockets or any thing like that, just better off as friends and only want the best for eachother…and then there are some male friends I am just that with friends…never dated or slept with….well one I have slept in the same bed with but that was it lol..seriously nothing happen…

But anyway back to my story…so my friend comes into town but before he arrives, he informs me that a girl is also coming into town and wanted to make sure I was ok with that, now I said why wouldn’t I be? You and I are just friends! Then after I tell him I was..he proceeds to tell me that his friends are off limits to me and they better not try hitting on me…..I was like why? He had no real answer for that one.  Geesh why do men always hope that friends will lead to more? Its been over 10 yrs and you haven’t gotten me in bed yet…I would think you would get a glue and realizse that ship has sailed a LONGGGGGGGGGGGGG time ago. Then he proceeds to tell me that this chick is not his girl and he informed her, that he will be talking to other girls and she kinda invited herself. So basically told her not to get her feelings hurt when he blows her off right? Well my fear was she was going to assume something was going on with us…when there wasn’t, so I tried to get one of my GF to go too for back up but she bailed on me…thanks a lot R….anyway..so Saturday comes I pick him up from the airport, drop him off at the hotel, meet his other male friends and leave and tell them I will meet up with later that night for the night out.

Saturday night comes along..and I meet them at the designated spot..which turns out to be where we have dinner and go dancing. His “friend” is there..she seemed cool…when I first met her…the guys were cool so pretty chill night so far…dinner goes by, I pay for my dinner and drinks…wanted to make it clear I was not there with my friend or anyone else. Then we go upstairs to go to the “CLUB”! Well thats when the drama starts…..the guys are all getting geared up and in their groove to chase after the women..and boy could you see it their faces….so they tell us, me the “GIRLFRIEND” of my friend who was just a friend…supposedly….that they were going to walk around….so the boys leave and we are left at the bar…so we start talking….and I wanted to make sure she was not assuming anything so I told her me and my friends history and then she tells me theirs..turns out they met online and had been chit chatting for over 7 yrs online!!!! She thought she knew him pretty well and this was the first time they had actually met face to face…and here she was basically being blown off with me…so they could chase girls….so…I looked at her…realizing just how many times I have done the internet dating thing and how many times I have been disappointed in the date and I knew just how hurt and disappointed she must have been and how much of a wasted trip it must have felt for her after all these years of a build up….and I was disappointed in my friend…don’t get me wrong he was not mean and in all fairness he really did warn her and tell her this was more of a guys weekend….but she thought at least that Saturday night she would get a little more of his attention that night!

So I looked at her and said come on lets go find our own Game to chase….so we went back downstairs, walked around and a few mins later..two TALL goodlooking brothers walked in….I looked at her and said now thats what I am talking about…grabbed her hand and we went on by them and did our little back and forth looks and then we went back up stairs, few mins later they were up there dancing around us and laughing and hanging out with us….one turned out to be a cop from here and the other was in town and was the cops brother and was here for his birthday…so he was talking to my friend, and I was talking to the cop…who was 6′4″ and mmmmm just yummy….BUT and yes there is a but….though the chemistry was off the chain..and Iwas feeling him and was hoping we would talk and get to know eachother, he soon started to act like the guys we came with….talking to every female around and then when he got bored would come and try grabbing on me…so when his hands tried to go up my dress, as typsy as I was…well that was it for me…I pushed him away the best I could….which was not easy, he whispered something in my ear about going home with him but I was turned off and over it by then….and had my back to him and let him walk away….my new girlfriend was still enjoying his brothers company…and I saw our original friends still around but so I knew she was ok..but I knew my night on the town was over…I had seen enough for one night….told her good bye text my other friend he was barried on amongst the dancers on the dance floor and said good bye and called it night.  I was happy I met her and was there for her…and she ended up having a good time but disappointed again in Vegas MEN….and heck even my friend from back home and reminded me why we never dated…I must have picked up on that a long time ago to stay away….

Now what sucks is I really was feeling the vibe of this cop..but he had to get so disrepectful and to grabby feely…whats bad is I might have hung out with them all and dated this guy if he would have had patience but I guess he was just in the moment and wanted a piece of ass and frankly I am over the piece of ass thing…or one night stand kind of men..not that I ever go home with the one nighters but hey lets be real I have had a moment or two…in my younger days….but not for me anymore..and to see men my age act like..I was like wow..there is no hope for a woman who really wants to find REAL LOVE out there…all men want is sex….so may be I just feel defeated right now in the love department but it was really disappointed, to see what my new friend went through with my male friend and see a NICE looking well groomed probably has his shyt together for the most part to be a cop but to act like some sex crazed teenager and practilly molest me right there it was just wow disappointing to say the least…

But hey the good thing out this weekend..is I now have a new friend and she turned out to be pretty cool….and we exchanged numbers and facebook info…and now she really has someone she can come party with in Vegas or just get out of town with when she needs to..she lives only a few states over..something tells me I will see more of her than my friend from back home…which reminds me..I gotta tell him about himself when he gets back home…what an ass…..

Another Vegas dating nightmare….one luv…still dazed and confused in vegas.

it’s been a while since i last blogged and since then life has been the same (ups and downs) and of course drama with everything in my life.  i think i am just a walking drama magnet because something always has to happen to me…but maybe if i don’t share  anyof these drama with anyone then it wouldn’t be drama….hmmmm this is a bit too much thinking at 11pm on a Sunday night!  especially after working out for the 4th time this year…wow, what’ up with that 4th theme today?  anyway, back to my story.

so i decided to give it one more shot…the 4th time with someone that i shed many tears for.  is it worth it?  is it the right decision?  afterall then i wouldn’t be single in sin city anymore…i guess “single” has a lot of meanings.  it can mean that you have a boyfriend but you are not married yet or single as in all by yourself.  sometimes it’s nice to be on your own because you can play as much as you want and date whomever you want.  but these are mostly temporary happiness…to me i think there is some type of void or emptiness when you don’t have someone at the end of the night to hug or snuggle with and just chat about your amazing day at work, what upsets you…etc.  just sharing with another person…of course girlfriends are there to listen, lend a shoulder but it’s just different.

i am still the person i am when we broke up for the 3rd time…i definitely have changed throughout my relationships but i think ever since i moved to Vegas 3 years ago, i have been on my best behavior playing my gf role but i just have been meeting the wrong guys…well, i hope that this time he really changed or is willing to try to change.  you never want to change someone but if it’s maturing from still wanting to play the field, i think it’s a bit different.  rather than forcing the person to be ready, they have to do it on their own terms.  i know i wanted it to work or try again because i do still get the warm fuzzy feelings inside me when i see him.  also just little things he says that makes me feel like he is looking forward to having a more meaningful relationship…

sometimes you meet someone that you think may be right for you at another time in your life, maybe at the time you were too immature to realize that they were so good…sometimes it’s too late when you finally realize that but sometimes you still get that 2nd, 3rd or 4th chance…i am not sure if things would work out this time but at least i have his commitment of giving his 100% and with that i know it’s worth it to try one more time.    las vegas is such a difficult place to meet someone, i say it all the time to my girls in LA and NYC…they think it’s difficult everywhere!  finding someone you absolutely adore and to have them feel the same way about you is so much more difficult now than when you were in school.  is it because when we were younger, we didn’t think as much about the future?  so we just enjoyed the moment? 

that’s all for me for now…

no I am not talking about my social life- although I could be, LOL!  My laptop was out of commission for awhile, but my girls picked up the slack.  Actually my love life was out of commission there for awhile, but my girls had some drama, so everyone still got some blogs.  But, the laptop is running and I have a new commitment to the good the bad and the ugly and I am determined to get it all written down purely for entertainemnt value!

So the blog is working the way it should, because several of my friends have been calling and e-mailing freaking out asking me about some of the blogs and taking much reassurance they weren’t me so the anonymous thing is starting to work, which is cool, I just didn’t realize it would backfire that way as well- haha.  So I encourage everyone to keep writing, keep submitting and I am committing to at least one blog a week.  I have to warn you, some of it just may be plain ranting, but I tend to get the most laughs out of that one.  Which reminds me- my original funny for the day- the perfect voice mail:

“If this is a medical crisis, please hang up and dial 911.

If this is an emotional crisis, please text back the number you just dialed with the worb ‘bar’ and code 1,2 or3.  If you don’t know what that means, I am not close enough to listen to your crap anyway.  Thank you and have a great day.

Nite!  Hopefully seomthing juicy after the weekend.  Not that I have a date or anything, but, you know.  I am single in sin city!

Being single isn’t easy- we all know that.  And the dating advice plastered all over your homepage doesn’t help. It always seems to scream, to me at least, “You’re still single!”  However, I recently came across an article that really helped me.  Quite possibly the best dating advice that I’d ever gotten!  In a nutshell, the author said, to rid yourself of all the bad dates and Karma that follow you around and allow yourself to be found.  Cleanse yourself of the I-date-online-because-I’m-just-looking-for-something-to-do-odor and discover a new fragrance! 

So that’s what I did.  Wednesday morning I deleted all my online dating profiles.  I had been thinking about doing it for a while, but didn’t want to let them go.  What would I do with the free hours in my day without the ability to click on the “Who’s Viewed Me” tab? I’d be forced to find something else to do. 

Then it came to me.  Yes, find something else to do!  Do what you love and love will find you, because after all, as women- we are most attractive when we’re comfortable and confident.  Why couldn’t I be found at the book store, in a cooking class, my local volunteer opportunity, at the gym or on a run meet-up?  What was stopping me from being successful meeting people the “Normal” way?  Could it be the odor I was carrying around from before?

 It’s only been a couple days, but I feel better.  No more obsessing over why he viewed me but didn’t write. Not only have I taken up cooking again, but I’m spending more time doing the things that make me happy.  My mind and heart are free to do everything I loved before I became so pre-occupied with the dot come dating world.

So you are dating someone from MYSPACE, and they have friends on there, that they stay in touch with….some are real friends some are friends that they have met through myspace…the same way they met you..so now you two are dating..and they even changed their profile to say “In a Relationship” so you change yours…you leave each other little comments, its all little love and kisses and miss you etc.  Then  you see his  friends still leave their comments too. So when do you worry about the friends comments? We all know some ppl do crap just do crap on there to try to claim someone and they never met them. So do you take it for what it is…just comments..some he may have never met…some he may have dated at one time. But it was before you, so do you let it get  or do you freak out over it? If you are dating someone who obviously has been on these sites a time or two and has a lot of friends, or may be re-created their page…just in time for you two to meet and doesn’t have a lot of friends yet but the comments are loading up, should you worry?

Do you start sending out messages to these so called friends and see what the deal is, or not worry about it, because he comes home to you every night? MMMM I wonder…you see I have been on both sides of this, and I have been guilty of wondering the same thing…and sending that NOTE…..what’s the deal with you and MY MAN..well mine wasn’t exactly like that, my boyfriend and I had actually broke up. Then a  few months go by and he  even moved in with another woman, then the text messages and emails started to me, saying he messed up and wanted me back. So I sent a message to her, to warn her…because he had met her at his job and was starting this same crap with her when he lived with me. So I thought I should warn her because she knew he lived w/ me and felt it was ok to open doors, so I thought  Karma’s a bitch and ya man is trying to move back in….so call it vindictive but it sure wasn’t about insecurities!

So back to today I logged in to myspace and there was that MESSAGE from my male friends girlfriend! Oh lord I thought here we go…this guy was mentioned in my previous blog..the one who doesn’t have it all together, he is actually in the process of rebuilding his life after a  few  rough years. But women are crazy about him with that smile. He just gets these women who are just obsessed with him. We have been friends for years, he knows my deepest secrets and I know his! Did we date at one time, well lets just say we have been through ALOT together and are very close..but I respect any decision he makes and want him happy. I know this man like no other…I know the kind of woman that he needs and I am not saying its me, I have even told him that, there is a point when you pass relationship potential to just friends I think, and  you two are just friends even if you were involved at one time or not. 

He needs a woman who can handle all of his female friends and accept his ways, and when he needs his space he needs his space. The man is in his 30’s and he is who he is and probably will not change. However, he is trying a lot with this woman, he has done things for this woman that I have not seen him do before, with anyone he has dated,  so she needs to get it together or he is going to run as fast as he can if she keeps pushing. Problem is they have been dating only a few months and I think he has convinced himself way before he met her, its time to settle down. He has been through a lot  as I mentioned these past few years and feels the clock is ticking for whatever reason. Now he is ready to be married, or at least settled down. Now in the all of sudden change from Player to wanting to be married, he has jumped head first into this relationship, not really knowing this woman and telling everyone how perfect she was for him and I think a little embarrassed he made her out to be something she never was…why do we do that put each other on pedestals, or make us into something that we never were or never could live up to?  Now he feels smothered and is freak-in out not knowing what to do, because he can not change his personality nor change over night.

 Not that he was ever a cheater, he was one of those guys that would tell you I am not ready for a relationship, so basically we are friends with benefits type of dudes and lets just say over the years he had A LOT OF  “FRIENDS” w/ beny’s kinda thing….and that is a hard habit to break..heck even for a woman its a hard habit to break.  When he is out he flirts naturally without knowing it…and any woman who is with him needs to know this about him. He doesn’t mean to hurt your feelings, thats just who he is…and will always be. He will always have women around him but he has learned to finally put boundaries out there…so good for him.  He is trying…he really is with her..but I still can’t help but think,  does he really love her, or is he settling and trying to convince himself because he made her out to be this perfect match in less than 2 months. Now she is clingy, asking where he is all the time, every five mins. If he gets a call , she is all in his business and jealous, demanding of his attention saying he is on her time. I feel a little to blame, because  I told him a few months ago  before he met her when he decides to settle down, he has to cut off all his “friends” w/ beny’s thing and show whoever he decided to be with that she is the “ONE” and he will do what ever it takes to make her feel secure….well now I still feel like , yes you should do this, but that is  IF they are the “ONE”  but ya know when they are THAT ONE,  its a feeling that is there always.. and you are not second guessing it two months down the road (may be 5 yrs down the road ya will LOL j/k)  when they are freaking out on you when you don’t answer the phone. Or if there are a few times where you didn’t answe the phone and then had to explain why you may not have been available, and it was explained in a reasonable matter, then  its dropped and done with and not brought up again. Ladies I am not saying don’t ask the question but its all about approach and how ya handle it…ya feel me? This chic freaks out…this will send any man running like a thief in the night…baby girl needs to slow her roll and should have saved this side of her to at least till she got his ass living with her LMAO…just joking!!! Now my poor boy doesn’t know what to do, he doesn’t want to be the bad guy because she has told him her sob story,  how everyone has always bailed on her..and abandoned her SNIFF SNIFF…WTF EVER..well yeah know baby girl,  my daddy and every man I  have ever known, has done the same  damn thing to me too, but hey no use to cry over spilled milk get the F over it….don’t take your past crap into the new relationship…if he is really trying and I believe he is for him…then she better count her blessings and realize she is the closest to any woman has EVER Gotten his ass to EVER think about settling down…(most women just try to get prego by him to hold on to him) but I don’t think she is the right one for him, her insecurities are going to destroy it plus she seems a little high maintenance but hey I don’t know the chic and there are two sides to every story right, but she sent me the note, so now I am entitled to some kind of opinion! The bytch is crazy…LMAO just joking…if he loves her then hey its all good in the hood its his nightmare…I mean funeral I mean life…yeah thats it…. JOKES MAN lighten up!!! I think he has just convinced himself he needs to save her or not be the bad guy and abandon her too.

So now she is all threaten about our friendship and I live over 1800 miles away!!! We leave comments on each others pages now and then, text each other from time to time…call each other when something major happens  in our live but thats about it! So she sends me this message asking me,  what we are, if we are just OLD FRIENDS etc…the comments make her think more, now we have always left comments miss ya, love ya those kinds of things forever..way before her, so now she is trying to chase his FEMALE friends away, now I know some of the women  and men can befriend someone just in hopes you may fall in love with them, so I understand sista but there are also complete strangers out there waiting to snatch his ass up too, if ya turn your back for any length of time. So anyway I hope he doesn’t allow it to happen with his true friends, but as long as he is happy I guess that is what matters RIGHT? So her message continues saying we even have tats of each others names on their backs and she can prove it! Get a grip lady…I am thinking….and she says,  they are moving in together and he picks up her son blah blah blah and I am like chic this is SOOO  left field, I do not care….get over yourself….but as much as I wanted to be evil about it and be woman and really say something bad and really just F w/ her….I sent him a message and asked him what it was all about. Now I was at work all day and was busy , so I didn’t see this until I got home from work, she sent this to me in the am, so we are talking like 6ish West Coast time and they are central. So he said well, she told me she sent you a message and I was wondering why you hadn’t said anything, she said you replied to her? I said no I didn’t, I contacted you first…so what does that tell ya?? The chic is a manipulator….complusive liar…I don’t know take your pick. The things he has told me even before all this she sounds like a loose cannon! But I was the good friend..and  did what HE told me to tell her…added a few words of my own…but I told her she needs to stop being so insecure and start trusting him before she loses a good man and that I didn’t really want to be involved. Then I forwarded the message to him and told him, this is what I said, and out of respect for whatever this is and our friendship, I will not leave you anymore message on your little myspace page…and I hope you figure it out and this is what you want and all that good stuff….he said thanks love ya always babe. Hey I feel like April in that movie….OMG!!! I am APRIL…in Definitely MAYBE!!!!  My GF keeps telling me we are in love and always have been and we need to throw in the towel and stop it with these random ppl…I say if we were, we would have figured that out a LONGGGGGGGGGGG time ago and made it work. Am I APRIL??? OMG I need a drink…

Another Internet Nightmare..I am April……………….Lord I hope NOT……I need to find love and QUICK!!!!