If You Have To Ask- It’s Just Not Right:
So last night my friend Jenny and I were having a conversation about decisions. My thought is that the more you stew over a decision the more you know it wasn’t the right one. The same applies for dating a man- so ladies, remember this; When it’s right, you won’t have to ask.
We’ve all been there at one time or another where we meet a man who we feel is pretty alright…However as time goes on the relationship we had such high hopes for begins to head south. He stops calling/texting and we’re no longer a priority. Instead of accepting the fact that this one just didn’t work out we keep pushing. We being to analyze our past encounters allocating points for and against our case that he’s still interested.
Actually….. he’s not. Men and women are animals and it’s our animalistic instinct to go after what we want. I think sometimes as women we forget that men, regardless of their inability to be worth anything (That was a JOKE!) know exactly how to get what they want. When a man wants to succeed- he finds a way to make it happen and he’ll do the same if he wants to be with a women.
So I know that for a lot of you this isn’t the best news, but I will offer some advice; allow yourself to be pursued! If this was Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory- THAT would be the golden ticket because let’s think about it. At the end of the day we all (Maybe) want to be with a man who we know loves us and wants to be with us. We’ll never get to that point by pushing or dragging a man into a situation he never wanted to be in in the first place. If you allow yourself to be pursued you’ll know that the reason he’s there is for no other reason than it being HIS desire.
So how do you allow yourself to be pursued? Do nothing but be responsive! This goes back to my statement before about men and women being animals. If the nerdy little white boy who asked you to dance last weekend was able to look you up and is now doing some light internet stalking over Facebook- why isn’t the successful broker able to do the same. He is- but we make excuses for the reasons he isn’t and honestly… when we look at this long term who would you rather come home to? Someone that cares enough to put in the work because he feels you’re worth it, or the person that you’ll have to work to keep engaged? Some women like a challenge and for them I would say; to each her own. But for me, I want to know that you’re there of your own personal desire.
