So a friend of mine came to town this past weekend..him and his fellas….he asked if I would hang out with him on Saturday…I said sure. Last time I saw him was like 4 yrs ago..we have been “FRIENDS” for over 10 yrs use to work together in my past life when I was married. We never dated just were friends never “hooked up” just friends..but not with his lack of trying…is it possible for men and woman to be just friends? I really don’t know anymore, I have some male friends that are just that friends…not saying we don’t have a past some we may have a past but realized we were not a match or our soul mates and decided we were better off friends..no back pockets or any thing like that, just better off as friends and only want the best for eachother…and then there are some male friends I am just that with friends…never dated or slept with….well one I have slept in the same bed with but that was it lol..seriously nothing happen…

But anyway back to my story…so my friend comes into town but before he arrives, he informs me that a girl is also coming into town and wanted to make sure I was ok with that, now I said why wouldn’t I be? You and I are just friends! Then after I tell him I was..he proceeds to tell me that his friends are off limits to me and they better not try hitting on me…..I was like why? He had no real answer for that one.  Geesh why do men always hope that friends will lead to more? Its been over 10 yrs and you haven’t gotten me in bed yet…I would think you would get a glue and realizse that ship has sailed a LONGGGGGGGGGGGGG time ago. Then he proceeds to tell me that this chick is not his girl and he informed her, that he will be talking to other girls and she kinda invited herself. So basically told her not to get her feelings hurt when he blows her off right? Well my fear was she was going to assume something was going on with us…when there wasn’t, so I tried to get one of my GF to go too for back up but she bailed on me…thanks a lot R….anyway..so Saturday comes I pick him up from the airport, drop him off at the hotel, meet his other male friends and leave and tell them I will meet up with later that night for the night out.

Saturday night comes along..and I meet them at the designated spot..which turns out to be where we have dinner and go dancing. His “friend” is there..she seemed cool…when I first met her…the guys were cool so pretty chill night so far…dinner goes by, I pay for my dinner and drinks…wanted to make it clear I was not there with my friend or anyone else. Then we go upstairs to go to the “CLUB”! Well thats when the drama starts…..the guys are all getting geared up and in their groove to chase after the women..and boy could you see it their faces….so they tell us, me the “GIRLFRIEND” of my friend who was just a friend…supposedly….that they were going to walk around….so the boys leave and we are left at the bar…so we start talking….and I wanted to make sure she was not assuming anything so I told her me and my friends history and then she tells me theirs..turns out they met online and had been chit chatting for over 7 yrs online!!!! She thought she knew him pretty well and this was the first time they had actually met face to face…and here she was basically being blown off with me…so they could chase girls….so…I looked at her…realizing just how many times I have done the internet dating thing and how many times I have been disappointed in the date and I knew just how hurt and disappointed she must have been and how much of a wasted trip it must have felt for her after all these years of a build up….and I was disappointed in my friend…don’t get me wrong he was not mean and in all fairness he really did warn her and tell her this was more of a guys weekend….but she thought at least that Saturday night she would get a little more of his attention that night!

So I looked at her and said come on lets go find our own Game to chase….so we went back downstairs, walked around and a few mins later..two TALL goodlooking brothers walked in….I looked at her and said now thats what I am talking about…grabbed her hand and we went on by them and did our little back and forth looks and then we went back up stairs, few mins later they were up there dancing around us and laughing and hanging out with us….one turned out to be a cop from here and the other was in town and was the cops brother and was here for his birthday…so he was talking to my friend, and I was talking to the cop…who was 6′4″ and mmmmm just yummy….BUT and yes there is a but….though the chemistry was off the chain..and Iwas feeling him and was hoping we would talk and get to know eachother, he soon started to act like the guys we came with….talking to every female around and then when he got bored would come and try grabbing on me…so when his hands tried to go up my dress, as typsy as I was…well that was it for me…I pushed him away the best I could….which was not easy, he whispered something in my ear about going home with him but I was turned off and over it by then….and had my back to him and let him walk away….my new girlfriend was still enjoying his brothers company…and I saw our original friends still around but so I knew she was ok..but I knew my night on the town was over…I had seen enough for one night….told her good bye text my other friend he was barried on amongst the dancers on the dance floor and said good bye and called it night.  I was happy I met her and was there for her…and she ended up having a good time but disappointed again in Vegas MEN….and heck even my friend from back home and reminded me why we never dated…I must have picked up on that a long time ago to stay away….

Now what sucks is I really was feeling the vibe of this cop..but he had to get so disrepectful and to grabby feely…whats bad is I might have hung out with them all and dated this guy if he would have had patience but I guess he was just in the moment and wanted a piece of ass and frankly I am over the piece of ass thing…or one night stand kind of men..not that I ever go home with the one nighters but hey lets be real I have had a moment or two…in my younger days….but not for me anymore..and to see men my age act like..I was like wow..there is no hope for a woman who really wants to find REAL LOVE out there…all men want is sex….so may be I just feel defeated right now in the love department but it was really disappointed, to see what my new friend went through with my male friend and see a NICE looking well groomed probably has his shyt together for the most part to be a cop but to act like some sex crazed teenager and practilly molest me right there it was just wow disappointing to say the least…

 

But hey the good thing out this weekend..is I now have a new friend and she turned out to be pretty cool….and we exchanged numbers and facebook info…and now she really has someone she can come party with in Vegas or just get out of town with when she needs to..she lives only a few states over..something tells me I will see more of her than my friend from back home…which reminds me..I gotta tell him about himself when he gets back home…what an ass…..

 

Another Vegas dating nightmare….one luv…still dazed and confused in vegas.

it’s been a while since i last blogged and since then life has been the same (ups and downs) and of course drama with everything in my life.  i think i am just a walking drama magnet because something always has to happen to me…but maybe if i don’t share  anyof these drama with anyone then it wouldn’t be drama….hmmmm this is a bit too much thinking at 11pm on a Sunday night!  especially after working out for the 4th time this year…wow, what’ up with that 4th theme today?  anyway, back to my story.

so i decided to give it one more shot…the 4th time with someone that i shed many tears for.  is it worth it?  is it the right decision?  afterall then i wouldn’t be single in sin city anymore…i guess “single” has a lot of meanings.  it can mean that you have a boyfriend but you are not married yet or single as in all by yourself.  sometimes it’s nice to be on your own because you can play as much as you want and date whomever you want.  but these are mostly temporary happiness…to me i think there is some type of void or emptiness when you don’t have someone at the end of the night to hug or snuggle with and just chat about your amazing day at work, what upsets you…etc.  just sharing with another person…of course girlfriends are there to listen, lend a shoulder but it’s just different.

i am still the person i am when we broke up for the 3rd time…i definitely have changed throughout my relationships but i think ever since i moved to Vegas 3 years ago, i have been on my best behavior playing my gf role but i just have been meeting the wrong guys…well, i hope that this time he really changed or is willing to try to change.  you never want to change someone but if it’s maturing from still wanting to play the field, i think it’s a bit different.  rather than forcing the person to be ready, they have to do it on their own terms.  i know i wanted it to work or try again because i do still get the warm fuzzy feelings inside me when i see him.  also just little things he says that makes me feel like he is looking forward to having a more meaningful relationship…

sometimes you meet someone that you think may be right for you at another time in your life, maybe at the time you were too immature to realize that they were so good…sometimes it’s too late when you finally realize that but sometimes you still get that 2nd, 3rd or 4th chance…i am not sure if things would work out this time but at least i have his commitment of giving his 100% and with that i know it’s worth it to try one more time.    las vegas is such a difficult place to meet someone, i say it all the time to my girls in LA and NYC…they think it’s difficult everywhere!  finding someone you absolutely adore and to have them feel the same way about you is so much more difficult now than when you were in school.  is it because when we were younger, we didn’t think as much about the future?  so we just enjoyed the moment? 

that’s all for me for now…