so i had a chance to visit my friends in nyc.  3 of the girls i visited are very independent and definitely do a lot of things on their own…meaning going home and not talking on the phone and just relax and be alone.  for some reason i have a problem of doing that.  i seem to always need to be chatting with someone but i will try to spend more time alone.  i guess while i was in nyc and they all had to work, i was able to walk around by myself and just think…it was actually quite nice.  except it was really cold and a bit rainy so i wasn’t able to spend more time outdoors.  so my friend told me while we were at a Whole Foods buying some stuff that i needed to just not have a boyfriend or maybe even date for a while.  she said i should take some time just be on my own…then we ran into a guy friend of hers from college and she says we are so similar in the way that we are very needy and always have someone.  i don’t think i am scared to be alone or single but i think i am definitely a people person and i do like people more easily than some of my friends.  i don’t know…we’ll see…supposedly when you are not looking for love, that’s when it happens.  it happened last time for me.  i was definitely not expecting it.  but then again, it wasn’t love. 

i was chatting with a friend of mine earlier on msn.  just catching up on life and relationships.  he works odd hours so he hasn’t really had a chance to date for a while and when i was sharing with him about how i am going to just be single for a while, he said to me, maybe i am just looking in the wrong places.  also i may have the wrong strategy! haha he used this as an example…rather than wanting usc to beat ucla in basketball, i should just change to football.  hmmm…i am not sure how that applies to my dating life.  he told me i should have fun with someon who doesn’t stress me out but it always starts out like that…i think i am going to hold off on the online dating for a while since my experience with that obviously hasn’t really done anything for me.  but it is a fun way to meet people in town.  i guess if i just want to meet random people then that would be the way to go and not take it serious.  from my past experiences, the best places to meet someone is school (by that i mean high school…haha, my bf from high school and i dated for 5 years!  that was the longest relationship i had with someone and it lasted through out my college years so i really didn’t get a chance to meet more people in school).  people joke around about going to grad school, not for your MBA but for your MRS!

i honestly can’t remember how long i went without “dating”.  usually after a relationship ends, i just start dating…but most of the time, they were meaningless dates.  you go out with them once and you just know that they are not really your type.  alright, i am going to see how long i can go without “dating”.  i guess it’s easier too because i am planning on to travel more…i joked around about going to new york to fall in love and find my mr. big (sex and the city) but that didn’t happen…so after 2 weeks in LA, i will be going back to Vegas then head to Taiwan for 2-3 weeks towards the end of december.  maybe my mr. big is in asia…haha   anyway, i still think going on harmless dates don’t count…what’s wrong with going to nice dinners with ”nice” guys?